Thank you for making the no contact contract for your readers. It is a life changing program and I have been listening to it every. Love it. Love you sister?? Thank you very much for this incredible blog. My ex broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. Emotional unavailable man, he dumped me in a cruel way without respecting my feelings. The thing is… I decided yesterday to block him on Instagram, since I could see how he was always checking my stories and surely I was conditioned by this every time I wanted to post something I only post a couple of times a week, but still.
So I decided to block in order to stop this. I was feeling OK before doing it, but now I feel as if I had gone a few steps back in my recovery… Why is this? You are not alone. If I can recover alone, we most definitely can together. You got this. Omg everytime i am looking for an answer about whats going on my mind i just come here and you help everytime. Do you think its immature to block him? This guy has dogged me immensely! I wrote her back and I was like who are you and this guy and I have been together for 2 years!
She sent me a shitload of wedding pictures and I sent her back as shitload of pictures of us and that 2 years we were together.
Is he just doing that to try to keep me wondering, guessing? This got to stop! You are not alone and you deserve a life of peace and joy. All my love to you, soul sister. Wish I had the time to write more. Thank you so much for your kindness, understanding, and for being a part of this tribe. I am very glad that you have these kinds of articles, I learned so much from you.
I blocked him will unblock him when I am totally moving on from him , I cut all the possible way of our communication. Am hoping that one day I will get through this, by the Grace of God. Thank you and more power! Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to comment, it means the world to me. I have been where you are and trust me when I say, you can never go wrong with having your own back, loving yourself, and protecting your peace. It is a dream of mine to visit the Philippines one day!
Before that happens, I hope to meet you digitally at one of my digital events. Give yourself a big hug from me and thank you for having the courage to share. I know the term narcissist gets thrown around a lot these days and I hate to misdiagnose anyone but I have done a lot of research and he fits every single box. We only dated for about a year but I spent so much time on him, prioritizing his happiness over mine, making excuses for his behavior to my friends and family, etc…regardless of how mean and critical he was to me on the daily.
Like yes, he was nice sometimes and we had a great sex life, but mostly when he was drunk he drinks a LOT and the affection he showed never lasted all that long.
But I still allowed it. This is when I told him to stop liking my things on social media and messaging me because he was the reason for my inability to move on. And he did for a bit….. The following weeks were torture. You are the one that ruined things and made things difficult. Did I mention he used to message girls and get explicit photos behind my back?? Because that happened too. I said although I still cared, I would get over it, and that life goes on.
What I keep reminding myself is he said these things knowing how destroyed I was. He said these things to destroy me. I mustered up the courage to block him off of snapchat and Instagram that night. This time, I know it has to be for good. It was the hardest thing I have ever done because part of me wanted to keep him so he could see me doing better eventually without him.
He laugh reacted at it. Like we were friends. This was of course followed by me getting rid of him there, too. His punishment is living with himself and I am no longer allowing him to take up any more space in my mind. It will get easier over time and it still stings every day but if anyone who is reading this can relate or feels helpless like I did…PLEASE just block the person who is causing you pain. LET GO. Rip off the band-aid and choose to love yourself instead of saving face. As an empathetic person, this has been a hard lesson for me to learn.
But you can do it — just remind yourself of your worth. There is nothing I could write back to you that would even come close to expressing my gratitude. It will get easier over time and it still stings every day but if anyone who is reading this can relate or feels helpless like I did… PLEASE just block the person who is causing you pain.
Your email address will not be published. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Post comment. Skip to content. And maybe… just maybe… he misses you too. Emotional PC political correctness. You care more about what other people think than you care about protecting your peace and mental health.
When the relationship ends, all access to me is shut down. An emotionally unavailable ex who treated you with a consistent lack of respect, honesty, love, and loyalty should not be able to find you under any search result.
Act like it and know when certain people need to be fired from the company and when others need to be blocked from accessing the building ever again.
Some views are unquestionably intolerable: racism, homophobia, transphobia, sexism. And this should happen even if discussants disagree with one another. German believes that blocking or unfriending is often an attempt to avoid the uncomfortable realisation that we will always have people in our orbit with who we do not completely align with. In life, we will often be forced to hold two conflicting ideas in our heads at once.
As Sam notes: that you could care for someone deeply but also be afraid of their capacity to hurt you. This raises interesting questions of whether unfriending someone virtually is comparable to removing someone from one's offline life.
German is again careful to stress that there are differing levels of disagreement. In our intimate relationships too, perhaps we ought to think about where our red lines lie before we excommunicate people.
If a healthy and evolving democracy is forged through discussion and disagreement, perhaps healthy interpersonal relationships can be too? Neveah did not take her friend's advice. She did not block the guy she was seeing and, instead, has chosen to move forward with her life. It is possible to create space and distance between you and another person without blocking them. Sam is determined to work with this idea. It is a physical impossibility to go on holiday as a single person without assuming you are about to enter into the greatest romance of your life.
So when my ex-boyfriend side no. At some point, I settled on It sounded sensib. In cases where an ex has cheated or has broken beyond all the boundaries of respect, we get fueled up by anger - which is totally fair and normal - feeling we do not want anything to do with that person any more to an extent that anything we learn about their new lives can cause us more anger. Seeking a final closure. In such cases, any contact or a simple comment on an Instagram post can spark things back again.
Eventually, we find ourselves stuck in the breakup-back-together cycle. They are playing mind games. In attempts to pull your heart strings, you ex may stir the waters of your inner peace by posting things on social media that can provoke you like writing something that is very obvious to involve you or relate to you without mentioning your name.
Sometimes also, these mind games can include back and forth approach like dropping a line or a message to check on you, then disappearing. So in this scenario, the only optimum solution to stop ourselves from getting hurt by seeing such things, is blocking them altogether. The breakup was clean.
In scenarios that do not involve cheating and where couples agree on a breakup for reasons such as incompatibility, falling out of love, or having different life purposes; the breakups are not usually ugly where both sides agree on parting different ways and prefer to keep things civilized and decent. Want to leave the door open for another chance. We sometimes choose not to turn the page totally on a relationship, especially if we still have feelings.
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